Hello friends, I have a couple of important questions for you:
- Are you happy? Truly happy?
- Do you wake up everyday excited about your life and ready to take on the day? Answer it truthfully…
Well, me neither-not every day-but most days-I am excited about the day ahead. After all, we are human and can’t expect to live each day in a state of perpetual happiness.
However, regardless of how you’re feeling when you wake up in the morning, you can try to make each day your best.
And, it’s usually when you are in a place where you’re trying to create change in your life, when the excitement and newness of the work start to fade and motivation wanes, that you give up.
Yet, when you have the urge to give up is the very time when you need to keep going! It seems counterproductive doesn’t it?
Let me explain…
When you are at a place where you want to give up, you’re just exhausted and you’ve given more than you thought you could give-keep going. That exhaustion, fatigue, lack of willpower are all your signal that you are growing.
Your dreams are just beyond that incredibly tough climb you’ve been doing for what seems like forever. You can’t see it yet, because you still have a final push-to reach the top.
It’s at the top of this mountain when you peer over into the valley below where you can see the beautiful valley that lies below-filled with the lessons you learned on your journey to the top.
And it’s when you reach that peak that you realize that all of the lessons you made on the journey, made the journey so incredibly worth it. But the journey is very difficult, it’s supposed to be. If it wasn’t hard it wouldn’t stretch you to learn and grow. And growth IS difficult.
In fact, 95% of people aren’t willing to put in the work over time to achieve their goals. They don’t see results quickly enough and they give in.
As a result they are unhappy, settle for just good enough in their lives, and every day is simply a repeat of the same blah day as the day before.
In giving up during the climb at mile 1, 2, 3, 10, etc….people go back to what they feel is comfortable. Their old lives filled with relationships, habits, and limiting beliefs that no longer reflect who they are, who they are meant to be, and the very things holding them back.
Usually, it’s only when people are forced to change because they are so unhappy-that they put in work and maintain focus for an extended period of time. That is when they see their lives change for the better, growth occurs, and they are happier.
We see this in the uncle who had an unhealthy diet, smoked, and refused to exercise. Family and friends tried to help him change his lifestyle for years, but nothing they did seemed to work. Then one day he had a heart attack and found that if wanted to reduce his chances of having another heart attack, he had to change his lifestyle. And just like that, he started to set goals for a healthier lifestyle and continue to work on his goals.
Or the good friend who complains about her relationship yet stays waiting for the other person to change, until it becomes so unbearable-she just has to leave.
Life events that seem traumatic like the ones listed above are what we usually look back on as being negative because of the pain that came with them. But, it’s because they were so painful that we are forced to make changes and grow.
But-there’s great news!!! You don’t have to wait for things to get so bad, that you’re forced to make changes. YOU can grow at any time! You can make the choice to create a life you love right now, today.
It’s as simple as making the choice to do something different and developing a plan for how you’ll do it and how you’ll measure your progress.
Your Life’s Plan
What does your best life look like?
What changes can you start making to work towards your best life today? If many changes feels overwhelming, focus on one.
Then start to create a plan.
Without a plan that you can put into practice daily, your life will be influenced and directed by others who have their own plans that they are carrying out.
Your involvement in the plans of others will not necessarily be what is best for you or what you want, because it’s based on their own plans.
Only you truly know what you want in your life and it’s up to you to advocate for this. An extremely effective way of doing this is to have a plan. Know what you want and set goals accordingly.
Small steps over time create massive changes.
We all need a way to measure our progress to stay motivated, so how will you measure your progress?
How will you push through when you are exhausted and simply want to give up?
When those around you say things that echo your inner voice of doubt that have kept you where you are for far too long?
How will you trust yourself and continue your life’s work of becoming the best version of yourself possible with only you to depend on?
Spend 10 Minutes Each Day Reflecting
The most effective way I have learned to be present in the moment and try to make each day my best, is by journaling.
In the book How to Stop Worrying and Live More Dale Carnegie wrote “Every day is a new life to a wise man.” Yet we spend so much time worrying about what happened yesterday and planning for tomorrow, that we don’t have the precious time that is promised to us. Today, here and now is the only time we have promised. Why not make the most of it?
At the beginning of every day, before I do anything else, I make myself a cup of coffee, sit on the couch and take a few moments to write about what happened the previous day, what is happening today, what my intentions are for the day, and at least three things I’m grateful for. It’s so simple, but the results have been amazing.
By journaling first thing in the morning I know that what I’m writing is based on my true thoughts and what I want because I haven’t had any outside influences like social media, email, or texts to fill my thoughts.
It’s incredibly important that when you journal you aren’t disrupted by the thoughts, needs, and wants of others and that’s why it’s so helpful to do it first thing in the morning.
There is scientific evidence that journaling is highly effective in reducing anxiety and depression and that when you add gratitude to what you’re writing, those effects are magnified.
The daily practice of journaling changes how you think about events in your life and you begin to lead from a place of abundance rather than lack.
It’s simple, effective, life changing and only takes a few minutes each day. So, what are you waiting for? Give it a shot and let me know what you think. Below are some prompts to get you started:
- The best thing that happened yesterday was ___________.
- If I could do one thing over from yesterday it would be _____________.
- Something I want to do tomorrow for myself is _______________.
- Two things I can do today to get my towards my goal of ___________are ________.
- Today I’m looking forward to _________________.
- Today I’m not looking forward to _______________ and so I will plan on doing ____________ to make the best of it.
- Today, I’m grateful for these three things…
The important thing is just to get started. Even if you’re reading this mid day. Practice writing in a journal (which doesn’t have to be fancy, a scrap of paper will do) for 10 mins. Right here, right now, and see how it goes for you. Once you’ve started writing, even once, the chances of your returning to it again and again are much greater. And you’ll be that much closer to making every day count, starting today.
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